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Okay, I'm going to say this once, an I don't want to ever have to say it ever again.
Do not
NOT
NOT
:bulletblue: NOT
NOT
NOT
DO NOT pressure an artist, writer, cosplayer, Rper, ect. to do something they are uncomfortable with.  Just don't.  Here's a list of reasons why:
1. It makes them want to stop
2. It makes them angry
3. It makes them want to ignore you
4. It doesn't make them like you
5. They get frustrated
6. They get depressed
7. You look like an asshole
Do I need to go on?
I'll give you a personal account.
I'm a fanfic writer as some of you may know.  Recently I had someone try and pressure me into taking my last project in a direction I didn't want to go.  I tried to explain that I plan my stories out in a pretty detailed way to begin with, and knew exactly how my story was going to progress, but they insisted.  I felt terrible.  I felt like I wasn't good enough, like what I had to give wasn't enough for this person.  In fact, I was so upset that I put off finishing my story for two whole days.  Not to mention I was already having a pretty bad week.  I honestly felt like there was no way I could be nice and get her to stop, but finally she let it go.  I'm not even all that popular, either.  I don't even want to think about popular fanfic writers, who have people try this every day.

There are times when asking a writer or cosplayer or artist for something specific are okay, like when she's asking for ideas or taking requests.  But if a creator says no, you should understand that pressuring them is a great way to ruin everything they've worked on.

I don't really care if you copy and paste this places; in fact, I'd encourage you to do so!  Or maybe come up with your own PSA because this is getting out of hand.  So please remember that artists,writers, and rolepayers are people and not your personal wish machines.  They have their own set of skills and should be able to express themselves with their work without people managing and overseeing them.

And before I end my rant, if you feel like someone is pressuring you, decline.  Kindly, but decline.  If you let them win, if you give in, it will only become worse.  The pressure will increase.  And it may no longer be fun.  They may get offended.  They may un-Watch you, but personally, I feel my creative voice is worth expressing, regardless of who hears it.  But the choice is yours.  You may have to decide whether expressing your work is worth losing a Watcher or two.  

As I'm typing this, I realize i may com across as extremely rude and pompous, but to be honest, I don't care.  This needs to stop because it is destructive.
Also, I feel the need to say that I am not angry with the person who did this to me anymore.  I've had my vent, and I'm not too upset anymore.  All I ask is that it not happen again.  If you think I might be talking about you, you're probably wrong.  If you know it's you, please don't start anything with me.  I am over it, and I would even look forward to being your friend in the future if you can just respect me and my attempts at my craft, and I will try and do the same for you.
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silverrain84 Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
vary true, and good luck with your writing.
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Upsilon-Rassilon Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012   General Artist
Damn.... Truth be told.

....mind if I put this on tumblr?
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Of course not!
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AwesomeHellee9 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
Truth words spoken
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kiddopolis Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
...You're joking right?

BASTET. I AM PRETTY ANGRY SOMEONE DID THAT TO YOU, BUT LISTEN UP.

YOU ARE A POPULAR FANFICTION WRITER. YOU HAVE CLIMBED THE RANKS AND ARE WELL KNOWN. HELL, YOU ARE</U BETTER THAN ME.

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH.


WRITE WHAT YOU WANT. IGNORE THOSE WHO PRESSURE YOU.
PLEASE DO NOT FEEL TERRIBLE BECAUSE OF ONE. ANNOYING. PERSON.
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Upsilon-Rassilon Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012   General Artist
I second this!
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:iconkiddopolis:
kiddopolis Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Thank you. :la:
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
AHAHAHAHAHA
Kiddo, baby, I'm not popular, but that's fine! If being popular means having other people shove their ideas down my throat, then I'd rather stay where I am! Plus I feel like I actually know a lot of the people watching me, and I'd rather have a smaller following and know you guys than a huge following that I only talk to every once in a while. ^^
and there's definitely no way I'm better than the amazing Kiddo, I mean have you seen some of her stuff?!
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kiddopolis Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Bastet, yes you are. No, if you are a good writer, anyone will try and shove their ideas down you throat. Trust me, it's happened a lot to me and I hate it. Basically, do not answer their comments. Delete and ignore them.

Ok, wow, you're making me feel bad. ._. Small following and knowing people vs large following and not knowing them all. ._. Yes, I feel terrible now.

Oh my! Have you heard the latest gossip? Kiddo is thinking of resigning her Reader-Inserts because of a couple of people! Bastet will have to work on for her!
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I may be an okay writer at best, but I enjoy what I do, so it all evens out, right? ^^

And no! That's not what I mean! If anything, you're even better, because you have such a large following, and yet you still manage to get out and interact with your followers! It;s super impressive if you ask me! :D

Really?! Wow, what a shame! Kiddo's stuff is so great, I hope those people tone it down! I'm sure Bast will keep it going if Kiddo has to bail. U.U
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Yurrai Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Student Interface Designer
Wonder words,no one should give in to peer-pressure.Or better force pressure upon others.If you watch someone you support them not force them into things!
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Oh my gosh, yes! I hadn't even thought of that, but you're so right! watching should be about support, not getting something for yourself.
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Sigart Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
I don't get it. Not you, I mean, I perfectly understand your point of view, but I don't get how people can get themselves to pressure another person in such a way. It's just stupid. And incredibly senseless, I feel. Personally, I've never experienced it but I can tell you here and now that if someone tried actually pressuring me into doing something and not taking to kindness, I would very fast stop being kind XD I have very little patience for stupid people, haha.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Yeah, I honestly have no idea why some people do it. It really doesn't make sense if you think about it for even a minute. I'm so glad you've never had to deal with it and I hope you never have to.
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Sigart Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Lol, I am kind of hoping someone will be stupid enugh to try Xd Like I said, my patience with stupidity is very short. Give them a proper scare is what they deserve *huffs*
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
See, I'm very non-confrontational, so I just let it happen. I wish I had the courage you have. T^T
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Sigart Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
I don't think it's courage, though. It's more... lack of patience. Also, I've avoided enough fights in my life to know that it will very rarely pay not to confront people when they're doing something wrong...
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I guess you have a point. -sigh-
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Sigart Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
I dunno. Maybe I just don't like myself when I try to avoid my problems...
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FearlessLullaby Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
:iconclapplz: Well said!
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you, I really do try. U.U
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0-EmoLeopard-0 Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen to that.
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ExSakura-Lit Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Oh my god, so true. If people want the story to go a different way, they should write it them-f*cking-selves.
If they want something that badly they can make a request or a commission, and when they are in that position, they can never try to make the artist do what the artist doesn't want to do.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Yes! Exactly! Those right there! My exact thoughts! There are hundreds of other fics out there to read, and if none of those suit your fancy, write your own! Don't make others do it for you! I don't understand why that's so hard.
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BabyGrifGrif Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Don't worry about those people! You're still a good writer
!
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
uwu Thank you so much, dear! But at this point, I'm just trying to make sure it doesn't happen again.
Thank you very much, though! It makes me all blushu blushu :iconloveloveplz:
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BabyGrifGrif Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
No problem :3
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TSsweets Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
:hug: This is completely true!
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:iconbastet-cgrp:
Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you! :heart: Just tryin' to make DA a better place!
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TSsweets Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I hope people take heed.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Me too. Me too...
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TSsweets Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
:nod:
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NostaligicDreamer Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I hate when that happens. I had written a yaoi story a seriously long time ago, when I started writing, and a few months ago, someone said I should make it into a lemon. I'm not comfortable with lemons. Especially yaoi lemons. That story was meant to be fluffy and stay that way. The person tried to convince me but I said no.. I ain't doing that. They finally left me alone.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Ok, THAT is not okay. Mainly because it's sexual. In some ways, that's similar to rape, if you ask me, which makes it just so... aggravating to me.
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NostaligicDreamer Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I know. I was like :iconfucknoenglandplz: I'm seriously not comfortable with lemons. >.< I know it may be immature but I just don't like them...
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
No, it's not immature! It's a preference which I can completely understand! If it's something uncomfortable with, you should be able to stop and have it end. But unfortunately...
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NostaligicDreamer Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Unfortunately lots of people like them and I respect that. I don't really care if other people like them. I can live with that.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Exactly! People like different things, and that's that. if they don't like how you write, they shouldn't be trying to make you conform to anything you don't want. Plus, there are plenty of other lemons out there, I'm sure.
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NostaligicDreamer Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to write a good lemon too >.> I'm not the yaoi type either which makes things worse
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Ugh, and they were trying to get you to? But, like, why? I'm seriously having trouble understanding why people do this to begin with.
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CardinalDesertFox Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Ah, thank you. I think this also applies to constructive criticism in that if the commenter continues harping on about what they're criticizing, then it's no longer constructive.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Yup. It's almost the exact same thing. Constructive criticism can help a ton, but only if it's relevant and respectful. Just like suggestions can be helpful but only if they're relevant and respectful.
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CardinalDesertFox Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Exactly. :)
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Nibblez22 Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
:hug: sorry if I did. I agree with you.
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
No, don't worry! it definitely wasn't you! :D
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Nibblez22 Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Oh, ok. I try not to...
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
You're fine, no need to worry!
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Nibblez22 Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Ok, thanks (:
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natalyapl Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Student Writer
i absolutely agrre with your point. freedom of expression is of life importance for an artist!this is all we do. create first for ourselves and then for the world. pressure ruins everything! good luck with your work :)
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Bastet-CGRP Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you. I'm so glad there are other people who understand. U.U
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